Circumcision & why the Father allows pain in the first place.
My son had to be re-circumcised a few weeks ago. He had been circumcised in his first week of birth but it wasn’t done properly. In actual fact that one took longer to heal. At about 6 months old we found out that he had to do it again because there was excess fore skin.
Now the reason circumcision is best done in the first week of birth is because during that time a baby sleeps most of the time because of the trauma the baby goes through during childbirth. The baby goes through a lot passing through the birth canal from the womb into the world and so the baby is really tired and sleeps a lot. The good thing is that the baby will end up sleeping through most of the pain of circumcision at that age.
I think at this point I should explain why circumcision is advisable from a scientific point of view. You maybe thinking why did God even put the foreskin there if it was to be removed in the first place. Well the whole point of the foreskin is to protect the penis during childbirth as the penis is very sensitive. Once the baby is born there is no use for the foreskin and it actually becomes a nuisance because it will just collect dirt. Also the reason it’s best to remove it is to enhance intercourse when the baby becomes a man. The penis will be more sensitive to the woman.
Now my son is 7 months(when I wrote this) and still a baby but now he is more active. He doesn’t sleep as much. He is actually not just crawling but also standing. He is very aware of what is going on around him and he is very very curious. So I was a bit worried about the pain he would go through during the circumsion. The doctor had said they would do a local anesthetic to numb the area so I worried about how he will lie still and allow them to do it. I also know they won’t allow my husband and I in the operating theatre and again I worried about him not seeing familiar faces. Honestly I didn’t even think much about the pain after the procedure. My focus was on the pain during the procedure . I guess also because when they typically do it at 8 days old they sleep through it so you don’t realise how much pain they are in.
I must admit I wasn’t happy at all. I wondered why we had to go through this. I say we because even for the mother it’s traumatic watching your baby go through pain. Personally I can’t even stick around when the baby is taking immunization talkless of seeing him being circumcised. I can’t even stay near the theater.
So while I was sulking and wondering why the Father will allow this to happen, He then began to speak to me about this process. He showed me that despite the fact that I knew this was going to be a painful process for my baby, I would still let him go through it because of the positive outcome it would bring . It is better he gets circumcised and then has his penis without the fore skin than to not go through the pain and wonder why his penis looks a certain way when he gets older or for it to affect intimacy/intercourse with his wife when He is older and then him having to do it at an older age where he would have to undergo general anaesthetic and be in much more pain. It wasn’t by force. I had a choice to choose not to allow him to go through the pain and forgo the circumcision. Despite the fact that I knew he would be in pain I chose to let him go through it because I knew it would be for his benefit in the long run.
The Lord said to me this is why He lets us go through circumcision of the heart and also refining or a process of pruning, crushing, preservation, preparation, wilderness etc. He knows it would be a painful process but He lets us go through it because it would be for our benefit in the long run. Circumcision of the heart improves our intimacy with the Father. We become more sensitive to Him. When we are living in the world we may need to protect our heart but when we give our lives to Jesus and we are in an intimate relationship with the Father we don’t need any “foreskin” to protect our heart. We need to be as sensitive as possible to Him.
My son did the circumcision and I wasn’t in the room or even in the immediate environs. I went to a place where I knew I couldn’t hear him crying and I prayed and worshipped and even cried. I realized that I was very fearful. What if something happened. Anyway when he came out he was fine and just wanted a familiar face until the local aneasthetic used to numb the pain wore off. My goodness he cried. He cried and cried. I’ve never seen him cry like that. He turned red. He cried for over an hour. He couldn’t even be soothed by breastfeeding. He was just moving while in so much pain. He wouldn’t sit still. It was such a horrible feeling to see him in so much pain. I joined him in crying. I cried so much because I couldn’t help him or ease the pain. After crying for over an hour non-stop he eventually slept off.
It’s also not an easy process for the Father to see us going through excruciating pain. As I was reflecting He brought to my remembrance when Jesus was on the cross. At some point JESUS said Father “my God, my God why have You abandoned me.” What we were taught is that the sins of the world were on Jesus and because of the righteousness of the Father He couldn’t look at him. But this evening it occurred to me that what if the Father also just couldn’t look at His only begotten Son go through so much pain. It couldn’t have been easy to see His Son go through so much but He allowed Him and gave up His son because of the greater good and greater glory of which we are benefitting off today. John 3: 16 says “For this is how much God loved the world—he gave his one and only, unique Son as a gift.[a] So now everyone who believes in him[b] will never perish but experience everlasting life.” (TPT)
In the same way as children of God we will go through difficult and painful processes. We would be pressed, crushed, pruned, purified, refined etc . Even though it’s painful , it’s good pain because it will cause us to bear much fruit. It would work out for us in the long term.
When my son woke up he was fine as though nothing happened. It was as if it was a different person that went to sleep and a different person woke up. I was afraid to change his diapers because I didn’t want to see a gory sight but by the time I did, it was clean. No blood. Everything was fine in fact perfect. It also healed in the normal time it was supposed to.
I’m so glad that I allowed him to go through that temporary pain and discomfort. For the rest of his life He will benefit from it.
I am reminded of the Bible verse in 2 Corinthians 4:17 that says “For our light affliction, which is but for a moment, is working for us a far more exceeding and eternal weight of glory,”
The world is going through so much pain at the moment with the emergence of Covid 19.
Despite this the Lord has allowed it because in the end it would bring out a positive outcome. It hurts Him to see the world go through this but through this there would be so many great things . People will see things differently and not take little things for granted. Families will be restored. Children whose parents spend most of their time at work will finally have some much needed family time with their parents. Parents who want to spend time with their children but can’t, will finally have time to do so. The earth will breathe and pollution will reduce. Perhaps the Nigerian elite and politicians and leaders will now understand the need to fix our health care system. People will give their lives to Jesus because they will see that at the end of the day , all is vanity. People will spend more time with God. People will realise that it’s really not about their Pastor but what’s important is having a personal relationship with the Father. People will realise that Church is not the building . We are the Church. New ideas, new business, new books, new movies, will be birthed. We are already seeing new songs being birthed like The Blessing by Cody Carnes and Kari Jobe and Elevation Church. Wars have stopped. People now understand why it’s important to eat healthy so that they not only boost their immune system but are healthy even in old age. Mothers will learn to cook healthy meals for the family. We would also appreciate the little things in life like community, freedom etc. Marriages will be strengthened. Sadly many have died but there would be many new births. So much good will come out of this.
Romans 8:28 New King James Version (NKJV)
28 And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.
Just as the death of Jesus worked out for our good, this too shall work out for our good .
Happy Good Friday and Happy Passover