Day 12: The Father’s Daughter Challenge

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Day 12: Dying to Self brings Fruit

Yesterday we talked about dying to self. Today we are going to talk about the benefits of dying to self.

What is the benefit of dying to self? John 12:24 explains it.

John 12:24 says “Truly, truly, I say to you, unless a grain of wheat falls into the earth and dies, it remains alone; but it if dies, it bears much fruit. Another version says “unless a grain of wheat falls into the earth and dies it remains just a single grain but if it dies it beats much fruit.”

Last year, I spent sometime researching. I particularly wanted to visualize what this scripture meant and how a wheat of grain dies.

So we all know a farmer will take a seed and bury it into the ground. Then He will pray rains come and the seed grows. I spent sometime researching on the process of germination i.e. how the seed grows and I found that it is made up of three parts which includes an internal food storage and so when it gets into the ground it feeds on its own internal storage then after, it begins to attract moisture, water and nutrients. Eventually it begins to grow roots downwards while it also grows upwards and above the ground where it then attracts sunlight. Amazing thing. But this time I wanted to know how the grain of seed actually dies. The first thing that came to my mind is that it dies when it is buried in the ground. But burying doesn’t mean death. Jesus died before was He buried. Humans die before they are buried in the ground. The process of being buried is not the process of dying. So I really wanted to find out how the grain of seed dies and I did.

Excerpts of an article I read “Wheat is a cultivated grass, and for thousands of years people have cultivated those strains in which the kernels cling to the head. And we understand if the kernels are loose on the head, the wind just blows them off.

To get food from wheat, you have to thresh the grain off the head. The grain of wheat “dies” not by falling into the ground. It dies by being stripped from the head. It’s viable off the head, but it will generate life only if it is pulled away from its old source of life and buried in the ground where moisture and nutrients will bring forth its life.”

So basically the kernels are stripped and removed from the head.

This is a process of death because it is stripped from its source. On the head it is not alone, it is amongst other kernels and it receives its source from the head but then for it to be productive on its own. It must be stripped off the head and be alone. Then it must be buried in the ground. Then and only then can it begin to produce fruit. The beautiful thing is that it is made up of its own internal storage that enables it to thrive on its own but it would never know if it clings to the head.

Jesus was stripped off everything. He was stripped off His own desires. He was a King but stripped off His royal heavenly garments and throne to walk on the earth. He died a painful/ shameful death in between two criminals/sinners. He stripped off His own will. He was stripped off His own reputation.  He died to self while alive even before He died a physical death. Then He died the physical death. What does God need to strip off you? Are you clinging to your old life? Are you clinging to worldly desires? Are you clinging to friends that you know are not good for you or don’t have the same values as you? Are you clinging to pride or anger? Are you clinging to the lusts of the flesh and this world? Are you clinging to your own will, your own rights, your own plans? Let God strip you off it. Embrace the process of death to self.

Now after this process of death the grain can now bear fruit.

Excerpts of the same article I read: “The result is remarkable not only because a dead seed generates life, but especially because it generates so much life. A week ago, I spoke with a farmer in South Dakota about this. I wanted to know his yield. “What do you put in the ground?” I asked. “Two bushel of seed an acre,” he said. “And what do you get back?” “Forty to fifty bushel” he said. Two bushels of seed. Forty to fifty bushels of yield. Think about it. One acre is roughly the size of a football field, and two bushels of kernels sown into it a grain at a time yields enough wheat for about 2,500 loaves of bread.” –

When the grain is with the others on the head, it is just part of the many grains. It receives from the head which is its source but it does not bear fruit. When it dies, by being stripped of the head and the other grains, it is then buried and only then can it bear fruit.

In today’s Bible reading in verse 9-11. The Bible says….The people came to take a look, not only at Jesus but also at Lazarus”. Lazarus had the opportunity to witness and He became a point of reference only because he died and was raised from the dead. It is in dying to self that you begin to be fruitful.

As a result of Jesus death, many are saved and are reconciled with God. Through dying to self and allowing God to birth The Richer Woman through me, thousands of women around the world have been impacted. Many have been healed, marriages restored, purpose birthed etc. Through being obedient and sharing about Gods plans for people struggling with their sexuality and sharing my own experience as a child many have been set free and no longer feel condemned, ministries are begin confirmed and birthed in this area. Even writing this is a form of dying to self.


  1. Are you ready to let God bear fruit through you?
  2. In what ways or areas do you feel the Father wants to bear fruit through you?



  • Spend 40 minutes with the Father today
  • Ask the Father to show you where you are still holding onto your life.
  • Tell Him you are ready to let go and let Him bear fruit in and through you.
  • Ask Him to let you see the evidence of this death by bearing innumerable harvests of fruit.
  • Write a letter to Him in your journal. You can start with “Dear Daddy, Dear Father etc.


Bible Study:

  • Read John chapter 12
  • What is God saying to you? (write any thoughts that come to you in your journal)
  • What do you say to God? (write this in your journal)


The Father’s Daughter’s thoughts: In today’s Bible reading, Jesus says in verse 27-28 says “Right now I am storm -tossed. And what am I going to say? Father, get me out of this? No, this is why O cam in the first place. I’ll say, Father, put your glory on display.” We have come half way in our 21-day challenge and many of you may be feeling ‘storm tossed’. Many may think that the cost of being The Fathers Daughter is too much. God may have been speaking to you about letting go of somethings and dying to self in different areas. Many of you may be afraid of what God is asking of you. Many of you may want to drop out. But are you going to drop out or be like Jesus and say “Father, put You glory on display”. If God can use me, He can use you too. Yes becoming The Fathers daughter has its costs but the rewards are so worth it and are eternal. You also don’t have to wait to get to Heaven to be rewarded, there are also physical manifestations of the rewards you will experience here on earth.  In verse 26, Jesus says, “If any of you wants to serve me, then follow me. Then you’ll be where I am, ready to serve at a moments notice. The Father will honour and reward anyone who serves me.” The Father wants to use you mightily and do great things through you. This challenge is to prepare you for the great things He has in store for you. This is the beginning of the best days of the rest of your life.



  • Listen to “King of my heart (w/spontaneous)” by Steffany Gretzinger, Jeremy Riddle & Christian Rhee.
  • Listen to “Your Spirit” by Tasha Cobbs Leonard ft. Kierra Sheard
  • Worship God in your unique way. Feel free to dance, paint, write a poem, sing


Declaration: I am where you are Father and ready to serve at a moment’s notice. Father put your glory on display.  




2 thoughts on “Day 12: The Father’s Daughter Challenge

  1. Omilola, God bless you so much. From day 1 of this challenge, I experienced such a drastic change in my current circumstances. Although it looks like a wreck now in the physical, but I KNOW that the father is calling me to a new place, He is calling me to a mountain with HIM hence he had to wrench my familiar sinful place out of my hands in a most obvious way that I cannot go back. I am trusting HIM for the next phase of my life as I am assured that I am safe in my Fathers arms. It is sooo mysterious, a simple request that I wrote in day 1 of my journal which was the need to spend more time with my family as taught us in the Richer Woman is an important call as women was answered by God in a most glaring manner. I am not 100percent of my next steps but I am completely sure of HE who holds my hands. I am dying to my old man. Thank You Omi.


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